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How to become an adopter

When you contact Adopt North East, we will help you to come to a decision about whether to start your adoption journey. We will work hard to put you at ease and try to answer all the questions that you may have.

We have a range of information we can send you but often the best way to help you think about adopting, is to attend one of our regular information events. This is an informal, warm and honest presentation about adoption and as well as meeting some of the staff, you will hear from adopters themselves about their journey.  

If you decide that adoption may be right for you, we will then visit you at home and share with you in more detail the process of assessment. We will keep telling you that we will be with you every step of the journey – because we will. If, after this chat over a coffee, you feel that adoption is right for you, you can make a formal application to adopt with us. We would be thrilled if you would do so. It will change your life and change the life of a child. 

The assessment process typically takes six months from formal application to approval as adopter(s). This sounds like a long time, but in reality, the time flies past and involves a number of conversations, opportunities to think through the kind of family you want to become and training to develop your understanding and skills.  

 

The adoption process 

Adopt North East requires that prospective adopters attend and participate in a minimum of 4 days training (for those with children in their care, an additional day of training is required). 

There are two formal bits – stages – to assessment. 

Stage 1

During stage one, which takes two months to complete, a range of checks are carried out, for example health checks, police checks and reference checks.

Applicants are required to participate in training – feedback from adopters is that they really value the opportunity, with others, to think in detail about the skills they will need and the children needing adoption 

End of stage one decision

Based on the information gathered during this period, Adopt North East will make a decision on whether you can continue to Stage Two.

If the Agency decides that you can progress, you will be invited to start the Stage Two assessment process. You will also be informed that you can to take a break of up to six months Stage One and Stage Two if you wish to do so.

If Adopt North East decides that you are unsuitable to adopt at the end of Stage One we will provide in writing a clear explanation of the reasons why. Should you wish to complain about this decision you can make a complaint using the local complaints procedure.

Stage 2

Stage two takes four months to complete and includes a minimum of two days of preparation training as well as a number of home visits from a specialist adoption Social Worker.

During this time the Social Worker will get to know you and you will get to know them. Together the time will be spent exploring whether you will be recommended as a suitable person to be an adopter. 

There will be conversations with you about your childhood and your experiences of growing up; how you have dealt with past experiences; how you feel about your family and what sort of parent you want to be. It sounds daunting and intrusive – however it is worth keeping in mind that the questions asked are designed around ensuring that children needing adoption are found the best possible families.

The process itself is also designed to see if you have the resilience and emotional maturity to be a good parent and that you have a good support network around you. A written report will be prepared – which you get a copy of and can comment on. 

Sometimes the Agency will undertake a Second Opinion Visit. This will not happen in every case. It is used where the manager feels that a fresh pair of eyes may help to ensure that an Adopter Assessment Report is as clear and accurate as possible.  A Second Opinion Visit will focus on a specific issue or vulnerability. It is not a comprehensive review of the many months of work undertaken by the assessing Social Worker, it is simply, as the name suggests, the addition of another – second – opinion to help the Team Manager in determining what recommendation will be made to Panel.  Depending on the nature of the issue, the Team Manager will assign another Social Worker or indeed another Team Manager to undertake the Second Opinion Visit. The person chosen will have had no previous involvement in the case. The Second Opinion Visit will be written up and added to the AAR and a copy provided to the prospective adopters for comment. The Second Opinion Visit should aid clarity to the overall assessment. Where possible, every effort will be made to ensure that the Second Opinion Visit takes place within the timeframe of Stage 2. Where this is possible, delay will be kept to a minimum.   

At the end of the assessment process, Adopt North East holds a meeting – known as Adoption Panel – to which you are invited, where independent experts in adoption will consider whether you should or should not be approved as an adopter.  

Adoption Panel

The role of an Adoption Panel is to consider:

●      Whether a person or a couple who have applied to be adoptive parents are suitable to be approved as adopters

●      If a child/ren for whom the approved plan is adoption should be matched with an identified adoptive parent or parents

●      The continued suitability of prospective adopters following a second review

●      The Panel may offer other advice as it deems appropriate.

Adoption panel will make a recommendation, based on information prepared by your social worker. You will be invited to attend the panel meeting. We believe it is important that you have the opportunity to contribute to the information presented to panel and meet the people who will be making this important recommendation.

The Panel has a diverse membership. It is chaired by an independent person, if they are not available the vice chair steps in. The Panel also has a Legal Advisor and a Professional Advisor who are not members.  Medical Advisers and Virtual School Heads for each Local Authority area also attend during matches to give advice.

A Panel has to be quorate in order to conduct business.  It is quorate when five of its members are present.  This must include the chair or vice chair, at least one of the social worker members and at least one of the independent members if the person chairing is not independent.

Our members currently include experienced adoptive parents, adoptees, care experienced individuals, a foster carer, individuals with expertise in education and therapy, and social workers with experience of adoption work and/or adoption support.  The list also benefits from those who are disabled,  from a Black and Minority Ethnic background and those from the LGBTQ+ community.

Adoption Panel meets every week. The Panel will consider the reports and contributions made by you and make a recommendation to the Agency about your suitability.  They can make one of three recommendations:  That you are suitable to adopt a child. That the matter should be deferred (to enable more information to be presented) or that you are not suitable to adopt.

Adoption Panel members read your Assessment Report prior to your panel meeting and will have pre-prepared some questions for you.  Be prepared for some probing questions in relation to the content of the report.  This is to enable you to expand on some of the content in your own words.  For example, if you have suffered any difficulties yourself in the past, the panel members will want to make sure that you have had the necessary support and time to come to terms with it so as not to impact your potential as a parent as children will always be at the heart of their recommendation to approve. There will be no trick questions so try to relax and enjoy the final stage of your journey to becoming an approved adopter.

The Panel will have a discussion prior to you and the Social Worker being invited to join them.  Sometimes they will ask the Social Worker to meet with the panel by themselves, prior to inviting you in.  When Panel are ready for you, the Chair of Panel will come to the waiting area and introduce him/herself to you and bring you in where the rest of the Panel members will introduce themselves.  The Chair Person will outline the strengths of the application and then the Chair and Panel members will ask questions of you and the Social Worker.  When this process has been concluded you and the Social Worker will be asked to leave and wait in the waiting room whilst the Panel considers the additional information and makes a recommendation.  You will be invited back into panel to be informed of the recommendation. 

The recommendation will then be considered by the Agency Decision Maker. The Agency Decision Maker will make their decision following careful consideration of the recommendations and all the information presented at Panel. The Agency Decision Maker for Adopt North East is the Senior Manager for the Agency. The Decision Maker will decide within 7 working days of receipt of the Minutes and Recommendation of the Panel.  Decisions will be confirmed in writing within 5 working days of the decision.

If the Agency decides that you should not be approved as an adoptive parent, you have twenty-eight days from the date of that “qualifying determination” in which to notify the Agency that you wish your application to be re-considered along with additional information or you can choose to refer the matter to the Independent Review Mechanism who will provide an independent view on whether you should be recommended to be approved as suitable to adopt a child.

 

 

 Self-directed Learning

Alongside the mandatory training provided in Stage 1 and 2 by Adopt North East, there will be an expectation that you will undertake your own ongoing  learning in addition. The training we provide is a requirement of your assessment and although comprehensive is only the beginning of your learning journey and to improve your knowledge, skills and confidence we would recommend you continue your learning.  

We can provide advice on areas you may benefit from further learning and once you are formally accepted into Stage 1 you can be granted access to CATCH (Children and Trauma Community Hub).  Catch is an online resource which provides webinars, podcasts, videos, articles etc on a variety of adoption associated areas.  Once approved as adopters you will be offered access to the Waiting Adopters Group which runs monthly and is facilitated by Qualified Social Workers and guest speakers.  These sessions are topic specific e.g. introductions, Attachment.  These are also an opportunity to develop your knowledge, meet other prospective adopters and develop further support. 

Suggested Training Timeline

Checks and references

The checks we make and why.

 

How families are chosen for adoption

Adopt North East have experts who are passionate about finding families for children. Using research, skill and experience, specialist Social Workers, working in partnership with the child’s Social Worker, will seek to make the best possible decisions for children.  

Once you have been approved as an adopter, you will be able to express an interest in children requiring adoption and, equally, Social Workers may express an interest in you. Working together and having open and honest conversations along the way, with children at the very centre of discussions, a link with a child or children will be formed. 

Making sure that children get the best possible forever family takes time and effort and  a little patience. Each child is different and each child is precious. 

Starting with what is known about the child, Adopt North East and the child’s Social Worker will look for adopters who are most likely to be able to meet the child’s needs.  

 

Step-parent and Non-Agency Adoption

Step-parent adoption is a way in which you can become the legal parent of your partner’s child, or children, from a previous marriage or relationship.

Step-parent adoption is the most common form of non-agency adoption – this is where someone is applying to adopt a child that was not placed with the prospective adopter for the purposes of adoption. Other non-agency adoptions include applications by relatives of the child and applications by Local Authority Foster Carers.

In the past, step-parent adoption was the usual way chosen by people who wanted to take legal steps to integrate step-children into their a new family, enabling them to share the new family’s name and making sure that their role as step-parent is legally recognised.

However, there are some disadvantages to step-parent adoption for the child that need to be considered:

  • If step-children are adopted, the law no longer recognises the other birth parent as having any links to the child – this also applies to wider family such as grandparents, uncles, aunts and cousins. Adoption formally cuts these legal ties that were established at birth.

  • Because a step-child is legally cut off from a birth parent and wider family, they lose rights to any maintenance and inheritance to which they would have been legally entitled.

  • If step-children are adopted, they may feel confusion and loss at the legal separation caused by the adoption and have a sense that they are required to cut off from the past in a way that is not emotionally helpful – this can impact their mental health and wellbeing.

  • If step-children are adopted, they may feel a sense of rejection from their birth parent or that the adoption was a result of fault on their part – these negative feelings are not emotionally helpful and can impact their mental health and wellbeing.

In recognition of some of the disadvantages of step-parent adoption, there are a variety of alternatives available which are likely to be easier to achieve and may be more appropriate – especially for a child who has some involvement with both sides of his or her original family.

Alternatives to Step-Parent and Non-Agency Adoption

Parental responsibility means having all the legal rights, duties, powers and responsibilities for a child. Parental responsibility can be obtained through:

  • A Parental Responsibility Agreement. This can be agreed with the child’s birth parent. This can be obtained with the assistance of a solicitor and will enable you to make certain decisions about a child.

  • A Child Arrangements Order can be made by a court which will allow you to share parental responsibility with the birth parent/s and can formalise things like where a child lives and contact arrangements.

  • A Special Guardianship Order allows you to have overriding parental responsibility. Unlike adoption, a Special Guardianship Order will not remove parental responsibility from the child's birth parent/s. This means that the Special Guardian will have responsibility for the day-to-day decisions, as well as all the important decisions about the child or young person, but will need to consult the birth parent/s at times where key decisions are being made.

The best thing to do is to discuss the options available to you with a Solicitor. The Law Society keeps a list of solicitors with experience of family law:

Alternatively, Resolution is a group of over 5,000 specialist family lawyers who work to resolve family matters. They also provide a range of helpful online guidance at

Still thinking about going ahead and applying to adopt?

To be able to apply for step-parent or non-agency adoption you must be:

  • Over the age of 21 years old

  • Resident within the United Kingdom for at least 12 months

For Step-parent Adoption:

  • You must be married to, or be the partner of, one of the child’s birth parents for at least two years

  • The child must have had their home with the applicant, or applicants, at all times during the period of six months preceding the application*.

For other Non-Agency Adoption:

  • Foster parents: The child must have had their home with the applicants at all times during the period of one year preceding the application*.

  • In any other case: The child must have had their home with the applicant or, in the case of an application by a couple, with one or both of them for not less than three years (whether continuous or not) during the period of five years preceding the application*.

*If a prospective adopter does not fulfill the residence requirement which applies to their circumstances, it is still possible to make an application to court but the leave of the court is required first. You will need to discuss this with a Solicitor.

To apply to be assessed by Adopt North East:

  • The child to be adopted must be resident within the geographical area of Gateshead, Newcastle, North Tyneside, Northumberland and South Tyneside.

If you are not resident within the area of responsibility of Adopt North East, the Agency will signpost you to the relevant Adoption Agency or Local Authority.

Should you tell the other parent / birth parents that you are applying?

Yes, because the court is required by law to consider the child’s connection with the other parent, even if there is no current contact with them. The court will have to take into account the child’s whole family network and their relationships with grandparents and other significant people before making an Adoption Order.

It is your responsibility to advise the absent birth parent/s of your wish to apply for an Adoption Order and to provide this information to the Court and to Adopt North East. It is not the responsibility of the Court or Adopt North East to locate or advise the absent birth parent/s of your intention.

The process

 

Inter-country adoption

Applications for overseas adoption can only be accepted from residents of the five Local Authority areas covered by Adopt North East. Applicants must be resident in Gateshead, Newcastle, Northumberland, North Tyneside or South Tyneside at the point of Enquiry. 

Adopt North East commissions the Inter-Country Adoption Centre (IAC) to act on its behalf for all requests for information, for the assessment of prospective adopters and for support of adopters until the child enters the UK with their adopters. Adopt North East commissions IAC to ensure that prospective adopters receive the highest quality service relating to issues outside of the normal practice of Adopt North East, including specialist knowledge of UK immigration laws and the legal framework of the child's host country. 

By way of a Service Level Agreement, services provided by IAC include provision for first time adopters, adopting again, and kinship applicants or those who have already identified (and sometimes adopted) the child abroad. 

In the North East of England, IAC works with ARC Adoption North East to provide a more localised service. However, the Registration of Interest is taken by IAC and IAC retain overall responsibility for the case. This ensures that IAC's specialist knowledge of adoption procedures and practices in different countries and involvement in the adoption application up to the time the child arrives in the UK brings clear benefits to adopters in this complex and niche service area. 

Further details about IAC, including IAC's Contact Details, Statement of Purpose and Fees are available at: www.icacentre.org.uk